The families in Sparta were almost always separated. When boys were seven years old, the military would come to take boys to the military barracks. If the boy was not fit, he would be used as a slave. Either way, way boys would never return to his family again. At the military barracks, the boys would be trained to live their life under hard circumstances. The boys would be barefooted, were given only one cloak, were kept hungry and when they wanted food, they would have to steal it. If they were caught, the boy(s) would have been flogged (a treatment only given to servants) or beaten. Young couples could not even be seen together. These things all kept the family from being together.
The Military was very important to Sparta. Boys would train for war starting from seven years old, then continuing their whole life! Everyone would have eaten in the Military mess halls, as to not let the family be together. Even the King gad to eat in the Military mess halls! Men who died in war were called heroes. Military training was very important. Giving Birth was also very important. To woman, giving birth was as important as going to war, it was women's version of war! Women were taught to resist the pain of giving birth. The women who died giving birth were also called heroes.
The people in Sparta were very different than those of Athens. The people in Athens were more based on keeping the city going, while the Spartans were more focused on the military State. Although they were both from Greece, they were very different.